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Be flexible with long-distance co-parenting

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

Q. My ex and I broke up three years ago. We have two boys, ages 15 and 12. Their mother went to live with family in Idaho, the children stayed with me in Montana. They visit their mother during breaks and in the summer. Our oldest is telling me that this year he does not want to spend the entire summer in Idaho. He is interested in sports, he has a girlfriend, and he simply does not want to spend that much time away. His brother hears him complain and also wants the time reduced. His mother thinks it’s my fault. I say nothing against her. What’s good ex-etiquette?A.  When kids hit middle school, friends and extracurriculars become the biggest influence, and as much as parents want to remain the center of their world, it just doesn’t happen.I’m sure your boys want to see their mother, but they want to be with their friends, too, and since their friends are in Montana, they are trying to juggle their allegiance to their mother and their life with you. And now there’s a girlfriend? Oh ...

Lawyer doesn’t want her to fight for more alimony

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

Q. Can you help me understand why my lawyer is recommending I settle for something less than the law requires?  He is very adamant that I accept my husband’s offer to pay me only 20% of his bonus as alimony on top of the child support I receive. I stay home with our four children and my husband has a big job that requires a ton of travel so I can’t work even if I wanted to right now as he is never able to help.  My former teacher’s salary is less than I would have to pay for childcare if I were to return to work.My lawyer says my husband’s salary all goes toward calculating child support and that only his bonus is available for alimony.  I can live with that, but my husband sometimes gets huge bonuses – the last two years were a million dollars.  The alimony law says I’m entitled to 30-35% so I cannot understand why he is telling me to settle for only 20%.  Am I missing something or do I need a different lawyer?A. When the law changed several years ago and alimony was no longer taxa...

Schoen: Donald Trump’s 2024 primary strategy, explained

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

Against all odds, former President Donald Trump appears well-positioned to clinch the 2024 Republican presidential nomination. He holds a commanding lead over a growing primary field with seven months until the ‘first in the nation’ Iowa caucus, despite facing a slew of legal scandals that would debilitate any other politician.While Trump’s approach to politics often appears more incoherent than intelligible, there in fact is a calculated strategy steering his primary campaign. It involves turning his intensifying legal troubles into martyrdom at the hands of the left-wing political establishment, while at the same time relentlessly attacking his top opponent, Florida Governor Ron DeSantis. Though this strategy is largely devoid of actual policy, it has been effective thus far: Trump has consolidated the support of the majority of Republican primary voters nationally, doubling his lead over DeSantis, per RealClearPolitics’ average of primary polls. Bearing in mind that national data...

Caring J’Quan loves to be active

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

J’Quan is an active young child. J’Quan would describe himself as humorous, kind, and fun to be around. He is a very affectionate child and enjoys showing his love to those he cares about. J’Quan’s favorite activities are playing with his LEGOs, riding his bike, and playing outside.J’Quan would thrive in an attentive, supportive family with one or two parents. A family for J’Quan will need to support the relationship that J’Quan has with his sister. A family should also be able to maintain contact with members of J’Quan’s birth family.J’Quan would also benefit from a visiting resource.Can I Adopt?If you’re at least 18 years old, have a stable source of income, and room in your heart, you may be a perfect match to adopt a waiting child. Adoptive parents can be single, married, or partnered; experienced or not; renters or homeowners; LGBTQ+ singles and couples. As an adoptive parent, you won’t have to pay any fees, adoption from foster care is completely free in Massachusetts.To...

Rick Steves takes audience on musical journey with Boston Pops shows

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

Rick Steves’ first trip to Europe wasn’t about history or food or culture. It was about music.“My father, who was a piano tuner, decided to import pianos from Europe,” Steves told the Boston Herald. “So my very first trip, when I was 14 years old, was to see the piano factories in Germany.”If you watch his public television travel series, “Rick Steves’ Europe,” you notice that between the castles and cuisine, there’s a lot of music: flamenco from Spain, fado from Portugal, Italian operas. Not a big slice of the program, music will take center stage when the Boston Pops presents “Rick Steves’ Europe: A Symphonic Journey” on June 8 and 9.Steves has deep affection for all kinds of music (he’s only had two jobs in his life, tour guide and piano teacher). His collaboration with Pops will focus on European classical music from the Romantic era, the age of Verdi, Wagner and Beethoven.“I love Romanticism and I love national struggles,” he said. “It’s cool that music, Romantic music, was a c...

Cat’s weight loss a sign of thyroid trouble

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

Dear Dr. John,I had two 17-year-old sister cats until one died two months ago. The remaining sister has been losing weight for a few months. I finally had my vet look at her. They took bloodwork, and the diagnosis came back as her being hyperthyroid. I was told that it was consistent with her weight loss. I was given a few options on how to treat her and I opted for using a transdermal paste because one option was too expensive and the other meant giving her pills or oral liquids and she is difficult to handle or medicate. Should this option work and what is your experience in using such a form of treatment?  B.L.Dear B.L.,I am sorry for your loss of one of the cats but luckily you have a diagnosis on your remaining cat that will allow you to have her for a few years to come. Cats with hyperthyroidism typically present with weight loss with a simultaneous ravenous appetite and are often found to have rapid heart rates. The excess thyroid hormone production puts their metabolism in h...

Dear Abby: Struggling with frustrations of invisible illness

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

Dear Abby: I am struggling with an invisible illness and losing patience with friends, family and acquaintances. I’m working with doctors to manage my conditions, and I’m tired of all the suggestions and seemingly positive comments I’m hearing, like, “You can do it; just put your mind to it!”I am seeing a therapist to help with the emotional stress, and even they are trying to armchair diagnose me and question my knowledge of specific vitamins, probiotics and treatments. Some of these folks mean well, but others I suspect are strongly hinting that I’m making it all up.I’m not even sure what my question is. A polite way to shut people down would be helpful. Please make your readers aware that not every illness is visible. — Struggling in the EastDear Struggling: If you no longer trust your therapist, it’s time to change therapists. A lingering illness can be frustrating and exhausting, and you clearly need someone to vent to about...

San Diego among top hiking cities in US: study

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

SAN DIEGO -- With landscapes ranging from the beaches and deserts to valleys and mountains, hiking is a popular outdoor activity in the San Diego area.LawnStarter conducted a study to find the best hiking cities in the U.S. in honor of National Trails Day on June 3. It compared the 200 biggest U.S. cities based on hiking trail access and quality, climate, safety and other key indicators of hiker-friendliness. The company ranked San Diego as No. 6 on its list, according to the report. Here is how America's Finest City stacked up in some key metrics: Number of Hiking Routes - 12thNumber of Top-Rated Hiking Trails (4.5+ Stars and 10+ Reviews) - 13thNumber of Outdoor Gear Stores - 8thHistorical Annual Average Number of Extremely Hot Days - 8thNatural/Environmental Death Rate - 44th California campsite reservation bill passes State Assembly Other California cities that made the list include Los Angeles (3rd), Oakland (7th), San Francisco (11th), San Jose (12th), Pasadena (20th) and Hun...

Carter and the Kings: A friendship and alliance – but after MLK’s assassination

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

ATLANTA (AP) — The voice of Martin Luther King Sr., a melodic tenor like his slain son, carried across Madison Square Garden, calming the raucous Democrats who had nominated his friend and fellow Georgian for the presidency. “Surely, the Lord sent Jimmy Carter to come on out and bring America back where she belongs,” the venerated Black pastor said as the nominee smiled behind him. “I’m with him. You are, too. Let me tell you, we must close ranks now.”Carter then shared a moment with Coretta Scott King, clasping hands and locking eyes with the widowed first lady of the Civil Rights Movement, their children looking on. For the Kings, closing the 1976 convention affirmed their continued reach — and their pragmatism — eight years after Martin Luther King Jr. was assassinated. For Carter, it marked the evolution of a white politician from the Old Confederacy: As a local leader and state senator who aspired for more, he had mostly avoided controversial stands during the civil rights era....

Golden Knights rally to beat Panthers 5-2 in Stanley Cup opener

Published Thu, 06 Feb 2025 09:43:10 GMT

LAS VEGAS (AP) — Back in the Stanley Cup final for the first time in five years and trailing the Florida Panthers less than 10 minutes into Game 1, the Vegas Golden Knights sent a very clear message.“We were ready,” Jonathan Marchessault said.Ready and dominant. Vegas rallied from an early deficit, got the go-ahead goal from Zach Whitecloud with just over 13 minutes left and arguably the best save of the playoffs from Adin Hill and beat Florida 5-2 Saturday night to take the lead in the best-of-seven series.“We kept our composure, and it was good,” said Marchessault, one of six original Knights players left from the start of the franchise in 2017 who scored the tying goal in the first period. “We just wanted to play the right way and be disciplined, and tonight we were able to be the better team.”Whitecloud put Vegas ahead, a crucial penalty kill followed and captain Mark Stone scored an insurance goal that was reviewed for a high stick and confirmed. Reilly Smith ...